Do You Follow the Golden Rule?

After experiencing the smack down last week, it is probably a good time to get ourselves under control and remember the golden rule.

FIRO B is the “Golden Rule” personality assessment.  It scales how a person behaves towards others, and how they would like them to act towards themselves.  Using three categories of personal relationship needs (inclusion, control, and affection) as well as how a person expresses and wishes to receive these needs (expressed and wanted behaviors) FIRO-B can help people understand their relationship style and ideal environments or types of relationships.

For instance if a person scores low for expressed control, but high for wanted control, then they are likely to accept direction from influential figures, and might not be interested in gaining positions of authority.  If a person scores high in expressed and wanted inclusion; they like including others and like to be included, probably don’t like being “out of the loop”, and may sometimes have trouble distinguishing work from a social gathering.

The need(s) that has the lowest score will be the need that is less compelling to be fulfilled.  Less attention will be paid to situations where this need can be fulfilled because it is less important.  For instance, if the need for Control is low, concerns about organization or authority will be ignored until the needs for Affection and Inclusion are met.

Learning about behavioral patterns can help employees understand which future careers or facets of a current job they may enjoy and excel at more.  If they value inclusion, they would probably enjoy a job that values and rewards teamwork and provides opportunity for social interaction.  FIRO-B will also provide ways to improve a team’s effectiveness with questions like-

  • Do I really need more input from others, or do I know enough to proceed?
  • Am I frequently expecting others to seek my input?
  • Can I lessen my reliance on others
  • Would my colleagues prefer to know less about my personal concerns?
  • Do I expect a personal relationship with my subordinates?

FIRO-B also goes on to describe what type of leader each need creates.  For instance, if the highest expressed need is affection a leader may be likely to try and minimize conflict, develop HR, invite feedback, and provide an environment of support.

As with most other personality tests, there are no “good” or “bad” personality types, only different.  Also, scores may be altered by a variety of environmental factors such as: “Pressure from your environment to express certain behaviors, cultural differences that affect expressing needs, life events that lead to intense self-reflection or withdrawal from others (this will alter all scores, but especially the need for wanted inclusion), intentionally avoiding extreme responses, and misunderstanding the terms ”




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